Today, September 1, 2006, I attended my cousin’s wedding at the Shrine of Jesus, the truth, the and the light church near mall of asia . It was a very beautiful ceremony, after the entourage walked down the aisle, the doors were shut. A tiny spec of light entered as the door was slowly opened for the bride to walk down the aisle.
Anyways, I am not here to talk about the wedding, but what I’ve learned during the reception. I learned from the various speakers that marriage is not just about the piece of paper signed during the ceremony, but it is a commitment. It’s not about being in love, for one can be in love with someone for a period of time, but what if that “feeling” fades away? Will you just walk out on the relationship and drop the so-called beloved like a hot potato? Or will you work things out to relive the moment and bring back the love that used to be there? Are you willing to risk knowing the same person on a different level? Will you still love that same person you were in-love with after knowing all the flaws once you move in together? Or will you separate/divorce after since you cannot take the other person’s manners or habits at home? Are you willing to sacrifice your own comfort zone to make sure that your partner is comfortable? Will you be willing to provide security and never-ending understanding, even though your partner still has doubts of your fidelity? Or will you just call it quits as if nothing happened and move on?
I learned that marriage/relationship is about giving your complete self without asking for anything in return. It is about giving love till it hurts, nurturing that love for both parties to mature together, grow together. It is about RESPECT, HONESTY, FIDELITY, UNDERSTANDING, and UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. It is wanting to sleep beside that one person at night, and waking up every day seeing that one person without getting tired or annoyed of seeing that one persons face. It is about longing for that one person and one person alone. It is about making love to only ONE person, since a relationship/marriage is a commitment…
Marriage/Relationship is about wanting and needing that one person because you love him/her. It is not about loving that person because you need him/her… It is about working things out, settling differences through open lines of communications. It is about not wanting to sleep at night because there is still an un-ended argument and you just have to patch things up and save your marriage/relationship. It is working extra hard to spice up your love life. It is about serving your partner without any complaints, giving till it hurts and letting that one person know and feel that you love him/her even on a day to day basis. It is about cooking breakfast, lunch and dinner for your partner with love to make the dish delicious even if its just tuyo or daing. It is making your partner face his/her shit in life but at the same time holding your partners hands and assuring your partner that you won’t leave his/her side and you’ll go through all the pains and shit together without giving up or letting go…
This is what marriage/relationship is all about…
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